100 phrases · the real list

The 100 dating bio clichés we refuse to write

This is the actual list our generator checks every draft against, published in full. None of these phrases are offensive. All of them are invisible, which on a dating app is worse.

Prompting a language model not to write clichés does not work, because clichés are overwhelmingly represented in what it learned from. So we check mechanically instead. A draft that trips this list is rewritten once with the specific offences named, and anything still failing is flagged to you rather than shipped quietly. The page is generated from the same file the generator runs, so it cannot fall out of date.

Claims about your personality

Each of these states a trait instead of showing one, and every one of them is claimed by an enormous number of profiles. A reader cannot verify any of it, so none of it registers.

  • partner in crime
  • fluent in sarcasm
  • my toxic trait is
  • professional overthinker
  • certified overthinker
  • certified snack
  • down to earth
  • go with the flow
  • easy going and fun
  • i love to laugh
  • chaotic good
  • unhinged
  • main character energy
  • i speak fluent
  • in my element
  • just a guy
  • just a girl
  • just a man
  • just a woman
  • simple guy
  • simple girl
  • equal parts
  • that's my style
  • how i roll

24 phrases

Interests that are not interests

These name a category rather than a specific thing, which is the difference between "foodie" and "I will drive four hours for a decent sandwich". The second one is a person; the first is a word.

  • enthusiast
  • connoisseur
  • aficionado
  • foodie
  • gym rat
  • love to travel
  • travel junkie
  • wanderlust
  • adventure awaits
  • seeking adventure
  • dog mom
  • dog dad
  • cat mom
  • cat dad
  • plant parent
  • obsessed with
  • catch me
  • you can find me
  • ask me about my

19 phrases

Statements of intent that state nothing

Every one of these is true of almost everybody on the app, so they filter nobody in and nobody out while using space you could have spent on a detail.

  • here for a good time
  • not here for hookups
  • looking for my person
  • looking for someone to
  • ready to settle down
  • the yin to my yang
  • better half
  • no drama
  • drama for your mama
  • drama-free
  • drama free
  • lets see where this goes
  • let's see where this goes
  • let's write our own
  • lets write our own
  • might make this work
  • we're on the right track
  • keeping things light
  • light-hearted
  • light hearted

20 phrases

Conditions aimed at the reader

These ask a stranger to assess whether they qualify before they have decided whether they like you. The people who opt out are rarely the ones you meant to exclude.

  • swipe right if you
  • swipe left if
  • looking for someone who can keep up
  • if you made it this far
  • if that sounds like you
  • sounds good to you
  • no space for
  • count me in

8 phrases

Dead openers and date suggestions

All of these appear on a very large share of profiles, which makes them read as filler rather than as an actual invitation. A specific plan works; a generic one is skipped.

  • let's grab a drink
  • lets grab a drink
  • grab a coffee sometime
  • i promise i am taller
  • taller than my photos

5 phrases

Phrases that mark text as AI-written

These are overwhelmingly represented in the writing language models were trained on, so they surface constantly in generated text and almost never in how people actually talk. Readers have learned to spot them.

  • living life to the fullest
  • life to the fullest
  • chapter of my life
  • new chapter
  • my journey
  • on a journey
  • at the end of the day
  • everything in between
  • and everything in between
  • strangely attractive
  • same wavelength
  • living my best life
  • good vibes only
  • vibe check
  • work hard play hard
  • laugh track
  • kitchen chaos

17 phrases

Jokes that stopped working

Each of these was funny once. They have since been used so heavily that using one now reads as not having answered the prompt at all.

  • pineapple on pizza
  • pineapple belongs on pizza
  • low key
  • lowkey
  • not gonna lie
  • iykyk
  • rizz

7 phrases

How to tell a bio was written by AI

Vocabulary is the obvious tell and the weaker one. These six structural habits are more reliable, because a model produces them without being asked and a person typing on a phone almost never does. We strip the typographic ones mechanically rather than asking the model to stop, since asking costs a round trip and usually fails.

uses an em dash or en dash (a strong AI tell in casual writing)

What we write instead

I am a teacher, mostly patient, occasionally not.

Replaced with a comma. Almost nobody types an em dash on a phone, so its presence is one of the strongest signals that text was generated.

uses a semicolon, which nobody uses in a dating bio

What we write instead

I cook badly. I do it often.

Split into two sentences. A semicolon in a dating bio is a tell on its own.

uses the "not X, but Y" construction

What we write instead

I am quiet until I am not.

The "not X, but Y" shape is a model habit rather than a human one. Rewritten as a plain statement.

ends on a rhetorical question

What we write instead

Tell me the worst film you have ever loved.

A rhetorical question as a sign-off is a generated-copy habit. Turned into a direct invitation instead.

trails off with an ellipsis

What we write instead

Ask me about the van. It did not go well.

The trailing ellipsis promises something the sentence does not deliver. Replaced with a full stop.

contains emoji

What we write instead

Reversing a trailer, which has been useful exactly twice.

Stripped. Emoji also count double against several apps' character limits, so they cost more than they look.

What to write instead

Every phrase on this page fails the same test: it could appear unchanged on somebody else’s profile. The fix is always the same shape, which is to replace the category with the specific instance.

foodie

I will drive four hours for a decent sandwich.

love to travel

Lisbon in November, and I have opinions about the hills.

partner in crime

Someone to hold the other end of a very large piece of furniture.

fluent in sarcasm

I will be confidently wrong about directions.

good vibes only

Ambitious until eleven, horizontal by two.

looking for my person

Someone to do nothing with on a Sunday.

Frequently asked questions

What are the most overused phrases in dating bios?

"Partner in crime", "fluent in sarcasm", "foodie", "love to travel", "good vibes only", "living my best life" and "no drama" are among the most common. The full list on this page runs to 100 phrases, and RizzProfile refuses to put any of them in a bio it writes.

Why do these phrases fail?

For three different reasons. Some state a trait instead of showing one, some name a category rather than a specific thing, and some are simply on so many profiles that a reader no longer registers them. None of them are offensive; all of them are invisible, which on a dating app produces the same result.

How can you tell a dating bio was written by AI?

Six structural habits give it away more reliably than vocabulary: em dashes, semicolons, the "not X, but Y" construction, a rhetorical question as a sign-off, a trailing ellipsis, and emoji. Almost nobody types an em dash on a phone, so its presence in a short casual bio is close to conclusive.

Is this the actual list your generator uses?

Yes. The page is built from the same file the generator runs against, so it cannot drift out of date. Every draft is checked against it, anything that trips the check is rewritten once, and anything still failing on the second pass is flagged to you rather than shipped quietly.

What should I write instead?

Replace the category with the specific instance. "Foodie" becomes the actual thing you will travel for. "Adventurous" becomes the thing you did in March. The test is whether the sentence could appear unchanged on somebody else's profile: if it could, it is not finished.

Are any of these ever fine?

A few are borderline in the right context, and the list is deliberately conservative about that. Bare "certified" is not banned, for instance, because it appears in real job titles; only the joke construction is. But as a rule, if a phrase is on this list it is costing you more than it is giving you.