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"The way to win me over is" Hinge Answers

Name something the reader could do in their first message. This prompt is secretly an instruction, so the best answers are small and immediately actionable: "tell me about a meal you are proud of" gets replies, "be genuine" gets nothing.

Most people treat this as a values question and answer it with a quality they admire. That wastes the one prompt on Hinge that can directly manufacture an opening line. Read literally, it asks the reader to do something. Give them something to do.

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What makes a good “The way to win me over is” answer

Make it doable in a message

If the answer can be acted on immediately, you have effectively written the first line of your own conversation. That is a real advantage and almost nobody uses it.

Small and physical beats large and abstract

Bringing a specific snack, having an opinion about a specific thing, sending a particular kind of photo. Concrete actions are easy to follow through on.

Do not set a test

An answer phrased as a standard reads as a bar to clear. People who might have messaged now assume they will fail, so they do not.

Low effort is a feature

The easier the thing is, the more people will actually do it. Asking for grand gestures gets you admiration and an empty inbox.

“The way to win me over is” answers by tone

Use them as they are, or as a shape to put your own detail into. The second option is always better: a copied answer stops working the moment someone asks about it.

Actionable

The point of the prompt. Something a stranger can do in one message.

  • Tell me about a meal you are proud of, in unnecessary detail.
  • Send me the worst photo you have taken of a nice view.
  • Have a strong opinion about a small thing and refuse to back down.
  • Recommend one album and explain nothing about it.
  • Tell me something you were briefly, intensely into and then dropped.
  • Argue with me about the best supermarket. You will be wrong.

Food and drink

Reliable because it is specific, harmless and easy to act on.

  • Bring a pastry to a walk. Any pastry. No warning.
  • Know a good place for one specific thing and be slightly unreasonable about it.
  • Order for the table with total confidence and no consultation.
  • Make me the thing you make well, even if the thing is beans.

Funny

Keep it doable. A joke that gives no instruction wastes the prompt.

  • Be normal about the fact that I own a lot of mugs.
  • Let me explain the plot of something for longer than is reasonable.
  • Laugh at the first joke. The first one is load bearing.
  • Take the aux and immediately take it too seriously.
  • Correct me on something small and be right.

Warm and plain

Sincere without becoming a values statement.

  • Say what you mean the first time. I will match it.
  • Ask a second question about the thing I just said.
  • Turn up when you said you would, which is apparently a personality now.
  • Text back like you are pleased to hear from me rather than managing a queue.

Short answers

For when the profile is already wordy elsewhere. Every one of these is under forty characters.

  • Bring a pastry, unannounced.
  • Recommend one album.
  • Take the aux, seriously.
  • Laugh at the first joke.
  • Ask a second question.

The same answer, rewritten

Instead of

Make me laugh.

Try

Laugh at the first joke. The first one is load bearing.

The first puts the work on them and sets a bar. The second is a joke, an instruction and a small confession at once.

Instead of

Be passionate about something.

Try

Tell me something you were briefly, intensely into and then dropped.

Same interest in enthusiasm, but the second is answerable in one message and much more interesting to answer.

Instead of

Good food.

Try

Bring a pastry to a walk. Any pastry. No warning.

The second is a specific, easy, slightly funny instruction. It is the difference between a preference and a plan.

Answers that do not work

  • “Just be yourself.”

    Gives no instruction at all, which is the one job this prompt has. It is also on a great many profiles already.

  • “Honesty and loyalty.”

    Values, not actions. Nobody reads this and knows what to send you.

  • “Keep up with my energy.”

    Reads as a test with a pass mark. The effect is to filter out people who would have been great and were not feeling confident that evening.

  • “Good luck, I am hard to impress.”

    Frames the reader as a contestant. Almost nobody chooses to enter.

How to write your own

  1. Read it as an instruction

    The prompt is literally asking what someone should do. Answer the literal question and the prompt does work that no other prompt on your profile can.

  2. Pick something a stranger could do today

    If it needs three dates of context, it is the wrong answer. If it can be done in a first message, it is the right one.

  3. Check it is not a standard

    Read it back and ask whether someone might decide they do not qualify. If so, rewrite it as an action rather than a trait.

  4. Lower the effort

    Whatever you wrote, make it smaller. Smaller gets done. Done gets a conversation.

Write a “The way to win me over is” answer

Nine questions about how you actually are, then an answer built from your details rather than from the list above. Every draft is checked against roughly 90 dating-app clichés before you see it.

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Frequently asked questions

What should I put for "the way to win me over is"?

Something the reader could do in their opening message. "Tell me about a meal you are proud of" or "recommend one album and explain nothing about it" both work because they hand a stranger a specific, easy thing to send you.

Why do values not work on this prompt?

Because honesty, kindness and loyalty are not things anyone can demonstrate in a first message. They are also claimed by every profile, so the answer screens nobody in or out while using up one of your three prompts.

Is it bad to set a challenge?

Usually, yes. An answer phrased as a bar to clear reads as a test, and the people most likely to opt out are not the ones you were trying to filter. Phrase it as an invitation instead.

Can the answer be about food?

Food works unusually well here because it is specific, harmless and easy to act on. Keep it to one particular thing rather than a general claim about liking food, which is the version everyone writes.

How long should it be?

One short sentence, under 150 characters. Anything longer stops reading as an instruction and starts reading as terms and conditions.

Can I generate an answer for this prompt?

Yes. Pick Hinge, select this prompt, and RizzProfile writes an answer using details you supply, so the instruction it produces is one you would actually want someone to follow.

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